The expression “your thoughts are not your reality” has been playing in my head recently (read past 18 hours).
Usually this is reserved for those who are having negative, self-limiting thoughts and so it’s used as a beacon of hope. The sentiment being something along the lines of “Don’t worry, it’s not real, it’s just in your head.“
The reason it’s on repeat in my head is because the opposite purpose for its use is also true. Your thoughts are not your reality and so while you may be thinking good things about let’s say, your relationship or how you feel about someone, unless those thoughts are translating into something tangible – or more explicitly – actions that support your thoughts, then YOUR THOUGHTS ARE NOT YOUR REALITY.
If you care about someone and in your head you know you care and you tell yourself you care BUT your actions do not support this, then guess what? They don’t know you care. They don’t think you care.You don’t care. That’s their reality. And so the similar sentiment can be applied, “it’s not real, it’s just in your head.“
It’s not enough to just think it. Another expression says “your thoughts create your reality” and while I believe this is partly true, there’s something fundamental missing. That something being this: your thoughts can create your reality when you feel it in your being and take appropriate action. So when you’re thinking about how much you care about someone, you need to feel it in every cell of your being (even when you’re pissed off with them). And when you’re feeling it and thinking it, how can you not find a way to express it in a way that demonstrates it to them?
What do you think?
Serious lack of sleep due to poorly baby has my brain fried and sensitivities running higher.