The first of The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz is:
Be Impeccable With Your Word.
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
This came up in conversation recently with a client after a crystal healing session. He commented on the synchronicity of me speaking of this with him and just the day before he’d had a conversation with his friend about this very subject. Follow the signs, right?
Since this conversation with him, I’ve been noticing my own words. Am I using it in the direction of truth and love? Am I using my words to manipulate, to hurt, to control? Always noticing, being the observer.
Last week I saw something on Facebook that made me think about how being impeccable with your word also applies to things that we post on social media. Let me tell you about the post…it was a short video of a woman doing a cartwheel. So far, harmless. Except that she was wearing a dress and no underwear and also happened to be overweight. This posting of this video, all 4 seconds of it, and please note, not the video itself, really grated on me (read really pissed me off).
I thought of females who may see this video and think it’s probably best not to do cartwheels in public in case anyone’s filming them. I thought of females who may think not to do any fitness activity in public in case they are laughed at, even just by one person. I thought of women. I thought of girls. I thought of me. I remembered younger me not wanting to do much of anything because well, most likely there will be laughter or ridicule because that’s what happens to overweight kids. They get laughed at. This is what that video has the power to create – limiting beliefs that can stay with someone their whole life(times).
When we post something on social media, whether we are sharing a video or an article, etc, we are silently using our words. Words have power and on social media it is so easy to exercise this power without having to actually say a thing. Just hit share and it’s done.
Words have power. Words can hurt. “Sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me.” Bullshit! Words hurt like a mofo. The body can heal from those sticks and stones. The damage caused by the words may go unseen but can be carried for life.
OK, I think I’m done now. Thanks for bearing with me on this rant. It’s been brewing for a while now and I had to get out of bed to come downstairs and write it.
The world is full of words misdirecting us from truth and love. If each one of us take the time to think before we write that next status, click the share button, retweet, etc, individually and collectively, we can make a difference.
With love, & thanks for reading